Hi Reader,

There’s a story you’ve been told—maybe not directly, but it’s there. A story that whispers: “You need to fix this about yourself. Be less bold. Be more polished. Maybe then, you’ll belong.”

And so you edit. You soften. You try to fit yourself into a box that feels tighter every day. But what if the problem isn’t you? What if the real challenge is finding a role and a team that sees the value in exactly who you are—right now?

The secret to thriving isn’t endless self-editing. It’s alignment. When you stop trying to meet impossible standards and start asking, “Who values what I bring to the table?” things shift. The job that felt just out of reach? It starts to feel like the wrong fit—not your failure.

Here’s our advice:

Embrace Your “Too Muchness.”​
Start seeing the qualities you’ve been told to “tone down” as strengths. Are you outspoken? Relentlessly detail-oriented? Visionary to the point of being stubborn? Good. These traits matter—you just need the right space to amplify them.

Ask Better Questions.​
What kind of organization deserves YOU? What teams would grow stronger because of your unique leadership style? Follow the trail of opportunities that call for exactly what you bring to the table.

Stop Editing Yourself.​
Every time you shrink, soften, or reshape who you are to fit someone else’s mold, you’re robbing yourself of the opportunity to find your just-right fit. Stop editing. Start owning.

Lean into the things you’ve been told are “too much.” Those bold ideas, that unfiltered passion, that unique perspective? Those aren’t weaknesses. They’re indicators of where you belong.

If you’ve been spinning in circles, editing yourself for the sake of the next opportunity, try this: What kind of leader or organization is waiting for someone with exactly my energy, my vision, my quirks?

Because when you focus on finding your fit, instead of fixing yourself, you stop chasing approval and start chasing impact.

You’re not stuck—you’re unseen. The right role is out there, and it’s built for the version of you that stays true.

Rooting for you,
Ify

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